The Happy Genius Hieroglyph that is Danse Russe
American poet William Carlos Williams penned the 1917 poem Danse Russe:
“If I when my wife is sleeping
and the baby and Kathleen
are sleeping
and the sun is a flame-
white disc in silken mists
above shining trees,
“If I in my north room
dance naked, grotesquely
before my mirror
waving my shirt round my head
and singing softly to myself:
I am lonely, lonely.
I was born to be lonely,
I am best so!”
If I admire my arms, my face,
my shoulders, flanks, buttocks
against the yellow drawn shades,—
Who shall say I am not
the happy genius of my household. “
Was the poet a good dancer? Who cares?! He simply danced. Or probably girated and stomped to an unstoppable rhythm.
A man crossing the desert of mid life needs companionship. He must also offer it to himself.
His challenge is not to abandon his creative side even though his focus is the financial demands of now. This refers to the fact there are a few different levels within a man. At daily and devotion levels.
Emotional Agility is the capacity to synthesize daily and devotion emotion. In other words building your life so that your professional life and your family life and your internal life all feed each other.
You make money to provide for your family. In that way your professional success facilitates family satisfaction.
Now to point a little deeper. When you get the time you can create a space for you to generate into your soul life. This can be, instead of listening to your music/podcast/radio in the car you appreciate the moment. It might sound strange to appreciate sitting in traffic on your way to a job with minimal satisfaction. But that is the challenge. To generate the appreciation from a devotional view of embracing middle age even though it seems to not have much in it for your soul.
You determine what gets your focus. Your mind determines what that moment upholds.