If your sacred book is the Torah – try reading the Koran. You will encounter a few friends.
If your sacred book is the Buddhist Sutra then take a look at the Bible. Find how the connective power of a living prayer can enhance a meditation.
If your sacred book is The I Ching what can you learn from The Upanishad? The variety of of life expresses a higher love that empowers us with positivity and guidance.
If your sacred book has become the Wall Street Journal then make a detour into the park. Take the time to try reading the bark of a red pine with your hands.
If Facebook is your bible leave your phone at home and walk with a friend in the dusk.
If the story in your sacred book is being filled with pages of habits and assumptions about what other people think then stop. Turn to a fresh page.
Find a way to elevate. For example: Breathe, smile, get amazed by an Olympic athlete, share something awesome about a medical innovation, get out in nature early one day, put down the phone and love the fact of the small node on the top of your heart that sends the electrical signal that makes it beat. Pretty cool.
The snow is falling as you would expect on an early Saturday morning – with beautiful confidence but in no hurry. The temperature was around zero and the sun was coming up on the other side of the lake so my dreamy snowflakes won’t last long. The lake felt pretty dam cold if you put your hand in there. The air was so clean I couldn’t even find a smell. The night was still intact along the pebble beach. A few pieces of plastic and water-ground glass. Even a few embers glowed in the smoky bonfire from the night before.
From nature we get refreshed and refilled with energy and clarity of vision.
Breathing in … we welcome into our lives, into our body, nature. So, with wonder, we want to be friends with you – the nature spirits. So, nature spirits, a message …
Your loyalty to yourself and service to planet Earth is admirable. Elusive to my mind is how your brilliance happens but my soul knows that accompanying you spirits, in the moment, will grace me, anyone, with your residue.
The clean way of your work is a theatre of the future overflowing with enthusiasm into today.
The gentleness of your attendance to all of us, the variety of persons we are, is appreciated. Picture: The old oak leaning over the path; the littlest rapids bubbling over the rapids in the creek; the wind’s choreographing the canopy dance of maple and elm trunks with birch and spruce branches; the fragrant minerals of mud absorbing fallen autumn leaves – We love how your agility to anchor yourself in any part of nature without judgement enhances wherever you anchor.
Nature … is the melody of the planet’s song. The fairies, gnomes, salamanders, sparks and sparkles of light quick, quickly are the libretto. We feel your harmony of this song in the moment, in the place: the lapping waves on the short pebble beach, the creaking tree limbs loving the yoga of gusty winds; or, inside the minute magnificence of ongoing photosynthesis putting to use the energy of the day.
How young men end up being angry young men and probably violent even though they don’t want to be.
A man by design is an authentic, brave, believing expression of the man version of human.
Alas, what you meet on the street or get into an elevator with is likely an insecure jumble of random goals, half baked intentions and unrealistic self-help affirmations.
Regardless of his facade many a man is a cocktail of doubt and aggression. In many of us men this seamlessly translates into very little self-confidence to access our natural emotional agility to be able to listen. We can listen. We listen to deliver satisfaction. However if the person speaking seeks fulfillment, instead of getting either satisfaction or fulfillment, we have conflict.
Men are great at one thing: being men. The art of Being a man is doing that one thing to get many results. Like going to work pays you money but also brings you satisfaction, admiration from your family, peace for spouse/children and life education for challenges ahead.
Society’s life education about men and women is lacking to the point of being harmful. Therefore the level of man in the world today is low when compared to our abilities and innate sentiments.
It is exactly these beautiful emotions a man has for those who surround him that he needs to shine on himself. That way each man can be his own salvation or inspiration or …
Now because women are naturally different they very often arrive at certain insights via different avenues before a man does. Women might assume that men will, and should, have complimentary insights.
Our history of interpersonal conflict illustrates that men don’t work like that at a societal level. We can create a new narrative for men.
A man connected to his natural spontaneity, vision and get-up-and-go will have put himself in the position to observe the similarities with women in the desire to grow and the differences in their expressions.
Young men are angry young men in part because they have been … cut off from nature.
The North West Pacific totem is ritually carved from a 20 metre red cedar tree. Once erected it focuses the higher vision of individuals on elevated qualities as represented by specific animals. The crow, the otter, the orca. This animal collective, living in the totem also announces to visitors what the community stands for. As well the tree totem provides a home for these aforementioned nature spirits. When a tribal member accompanies the planet, is dedicated to personal development and community growth they too can be a host of nature spirits.
Almost like a lightning rod is the totem pole. But in this case it is not for the energy of a storm being released but the higher earth energy that loves to engage with people when called upon.
Interestingly, out of all the North American tribes there were only 6 northwest tribes who carved totems. Amazingly this power of the ‘totem technology’ is gripping to all of us.
The totem has: Purpose – unite the higher development of the tribe according to the essences of the local land.
Content that facilitates an authentic engagement with – the soul life of the planet and with the history of human connection with it.
Wiring enabling nature spirits to embody the totem and radiate the power of the carved symbols.
These 3 aspects of the totem (purpose, content, wiring) resonate with all of us. We all have a soul that calls us to live, to grow, to share, to connect. The feeling from the totem can be at once and intermittently: haunting and inspiring, intriguing and settling.
So… your totem awaits you. In the welcoming park, by the friendly river, on the rocky beach, on the slope of the entangled ravine.
Go. Breathe deep. Give your time and senses. Savour the well-being. Discover your ritual. Create your totem. Say thanks. Repeat.
When it’s time … share.
Your totem can be made of: wood, rocks, leaves, a river, a lake, words, vision, high emotion, belief…
Part of the reality of young man anger is they don’t know what is happening to them and don’t know what to do about it.
Religion is natural.
Religion is available.
Religion is our supply chain management system for the soul.
The soul is natural.
The soul is available.
The soul is the energy manager of your life.
The soul loves your life and will never, ever abandon your life, your well being or your growth.
The soul needs you, it’s host, to provide it with experience so you have life reference. This gives your material/content to understand your intuition. With a broad range of resources to integrate your higher life into daily life you can grasp that not everything is about you. You will have perception based in the truth of the moment. About young men, about consequences and ways to deal with a situation in order to avoid conflict.
So put yourself out there. Meet people, learn stuff, try new things. Get a library card. Read a book. Read the book’s bibliography. Order a book on Amazon!
An important aspect of understanding the soul is using your habits as a foundation for growing. Habits can build and decorate what we call our comfort zone. Often it actually turns out to be a comfort zone for fear and a prison for the urge to grow.
The soul manages your habits. Feed the soul a portion of habit. And feed the soul a portion of questions that make you stretch towards what you want.
The soul is your biggest fan. It wants to know what you want and accompany you while you struggle to live out the realization of your objectives.
Your struggle for what you want for your higher life and how you insist on pursuing it is your personal religion. (Read that sentence again … slowly).
(Loop back to the top of this short article – where it talks about religion.)
Every morning I drop one or two wrinkled pods of dried cardamom into my coffee/spice grinder to grind with the coffee beans. The fine grind is flecked with the light green of the ground cardamom. I love the smell of fresh ground coffee probably more than drinking the coffee itself.
We actually just got back from an autumn weekend in a rented cabin and all my coffee paraphernalia came with us. It means we are not buying coffee that is more costly and generates waste vía cups, lids and stir sticks. Before bed we have started drinking a cinnamon/ginger brew to boost our immune system. My favourite drink during the day is a bit of fresh hibiscus tea mixed with sparkling water. Super refreshing.
Whether it is tea or coffee, cola, wine or whiskey. Coconut water, kombucha or beer. All of these are water based drinks. Some have sugar or fruit. Others are healthy. Again others fermented. Some are popular drinks because they taste good, a few for their rejuvenation factor and others are a success of marketing.
Water is to our body as oil is to the car engine. We are 70% water each of us. That kind of makes us, or our body, a bottle of water. How do we flavour our water?
Dr. Masaru Emoto pioneered the research into the consciousness of water. Based on experiments with water and music he concluded that we flavour our corporeal water with what we think, feel and do. The residue of these impressions settles in our blood, bones and organs where the water is at work. We flavour our water with life; good and bad, high and low, as a victim or author of our response to each stage of development.
But often it is the label of our human water bottle that we focus on most of the time.
We get caught up in the image so often that the ingredients, or their production, gets minimized.
We are born with 2 eyes, 10 fingers and a little hair all of us. What anchors your existence is a planetary soul. That soul gets imprinted with the genes you are going to give expression to in your daily life and give continuance to by your life journey. So those eyes might be green. Those fingers could be brown. And that hair might be black. We all have eyes, fingers and hair but we are all so different. Why?
Race, religion, culture, upbringing and education. All of these are ingredients that get integrated into your soul. It takes a strong desire and sensitivity to interpret the soul and not get distracted by the ego of the image.
What does it take to be a Sommelier of the soul? Because, if you think about it, we are flavoured water. How would the sommelier describe your soul? A hint of creativity, bold and upfront, goes great with fish? Refreshing! No bitter aftertaste:)
The Bridge connecting your emotions with your words
We all admit there are areas where we can improve. It’s painful to the ego but a dose of humility can keep many things at bay.
My wife told me I had become very militaristic in my communication with our teenage daughter. I had no idea. Of course I thought I was showing up to do my dad job by instilling good habits. Good intention with poor execution. The reality for my family was that I was now irritating; at best. And my approach would have become alienating if my wife had not mentioned it to me.
The point is to get more references/ education/ feedback/ input. These are the materials to build a bridge to cross from the ignorant side of the river to the other side. So there can be change from one reality to another – also known as growth:).
Change doesn’t make us wrong. It means we can grow. Especially for adult men this can be a bridge we don’t want to be seen crossing. Often we don’t know how to accept being wrong, or deal with feedback. Especially from our wife or children. Likewise we don’t know how to express ourselves. We don’t know how to say that we want to grow but don’t know how. We don’t know love can be expressed in words as well as actions. Small words, quiet words.
So to help to grow let’s picture a bridge that can help us cross from one perspective – our current outlook – to integrate a new mentality into our range of options. Your bridge can be made of wood and rope straddling high above the river. Or it can be an abandoned wooden railway bridge, made of massive steel beams or a beautifully designed stone bridge with arches.
This bridge spans the RiverofAccompaniment. The water of this river is soothing because it makes us feel welcomed. We are not alone when we take off our shoes to walk ankle deep in the cool, cool water. We switch from the side of loneliness to the other side various times in an hour, day, life depending on our emotional equilibrium.
One side of the river you look up and down the river bank and there is no one; at least no friendlies.
Having built and crossed your bridge to the other side you realize the river is the flourishing of you and others. The river is life. The river is what you make it.
You crossing the bridge may be an act of desperation because you feel left out and lonely. Paying attention to your spouse according to their need now has relevance to you. Or crossing the BridgeofStrength can be because you want to offer your spouse a good relationship.
The challenge here is manifold. However the response is singular: build a bridge through belief in action.
It’s your bridge. Build it as you wish so that others can experience the best of you. So your family can benefit from your accumulated wisdom from a history of accomplishments. Which is what you want too.
Build your bridge because you want to understand and accompany your spouse with respect. Even if you don’t really know what you are doing (be that on the dance floor or in bed or at an awkward social gathering or talking about your marriage or stages in life). But there you are looking good and participating.
It’s you leading – laterally. Which moves your marriage forward – simply in a sideways spiral – meaning you won’t be alone.