What does a man marry?

The wedding is just one day but we marry ourselves with our spouse the rest of our marriage. Without being unfaithful a man marries varied forces on a constant basis.

A man is a Vibrant power

He loves to use his capabilities to help, to lead and get satisfaction.

A man loves to accompany others in their success and be accompanied in theirs.

A man needs a direction to shine his light.

A man needs a higher purpose to rise above daily challenges.

It is a mans challenge to combine all of the above in a manner that he can learn from the experience and the experience is beneficial for everyone.

A man is emotionally agile with ready resources that enable him to respond to life with spontaneity not violence.

A man is responsible to keep the embers hot in the fire for life through admiration of others, curiousity and resilience.

Men need to foster their sensitivity to marry this man-fire with the answer to the urge to maintain and strengthen his energetic connections with the higher forces of growth.

Memory Games

My dad’s 83 year old mind needs exercise. Yes he reads the actual paper, organizes his stuff and has a few phone calls in his day but other than that not much stimulation. My mom keeps their apartment in order, cooks and pays their bills.

So in order to keep his mind agile my mom has put a memory game out on the table for us to play. There are colourful disks with cartoon drawings of dolphins and cactus, beach ball and clown. A child’s memory game. It’s pattern recognition 101: Finding the matching image.

AI is pattern recognition that is so thorough it sucks the life out anything it is set upon. Specifically as we know: jobs.

Artificial intelligence is making many jobs obsolete while creating a handful of others. The loss and gain of jobs in itself is actually a pattern of industry ebb and flow as we have witnessed over the years. This as always will close some doors while opening others. However the real threat of AI is more the lives behind the loss of jobs than its impact on the economy.

There could well be the arrival one day of a pervading reality when many a man will wake up each morning feeling empty. Empty because someone steals your ability and drive to get stuff done!

Normally when your mind is deliciously challenged by life and work you wake up without an alarm in the mornings; perception loves you and you solve problems with alacrity. These life challenges can also cause stress. Hopefully it is more the kind of stress of finding solutions than the stress of not being able to locate ones resources for success.

This intertwining of success and struggles is what helps form our identity.

So a man loses his sense of meaning when he wakes up and does not attack the day. Instead of him projecting himself into the new day – he stagnates. This is dangerous. This creates angry, fragile, insecure men. These men can easily become vehicles of violence. Especially using women as their physical or emotional punching bags.

So. To the authors of AI who design and manufacture your remarkable robots. To you who add an AI start up to your investment portfolio – do your homework. Be the person who accounts for the fallout. Be the man that the military should be before they send their sons and daughters to war. Know what you are asking the soul of your people to do. Bypassing your instinct and ignoring this need for meaning in daily life is irresponsible, rude and damaging.

You have the knowledge of the consequences of your actions. Your decisions are a reflection of your grasp of the beauty of human life and your response to the fragility that can undermine it.

And of course there is Another AI. The

Authentic Intelligence. In other words the human based pattern recognition system called the soul…?! It’s an excellent investment. Perhaps the 2 AI systems can work hand in hand.

For some guys this is not important


Somehow with all the apps that are designed for convenience, for example a parking app to find an available street parking spot in the surrounding 6 blocks,  life seems to be more complicated now than ever before.  If we continually tell us this then it actually becomes true.  One of those temporary truths – but at least true for us in the moment.  Yes we have social media always tugging at your sleeve.  And there is also your phone constantly nudging you to steal your energy.  There is always something popping up.  If we are to get stuff done and learn or grow or wonder we need to resist the phone/internet/social media tentacles.  Resistance is not futile- Resistance is CRUCIAL!  Resist the fleeting to accept and digest you in the moment.

We resist anything by making something more important.  So take the time to have a short mental list at the ready for you to use as resistance.  A list of things that are more important than checking your Facebook again.  Important things have more energetic leverage.

So make important things important!!


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Things like your love of self whatever in the world that means – but give it some time.  If you repeat it without being interrupted by your phone then you receive some ideas.  You have to build resistance – so you have to repeat yourself – your petition for self love.


Things like your love of nature.


Things like your growing belief in your life passion(purpose …?).




Go Yaw.

George Gurdjieff the mystic and spiritual teacher spoke about universal forces and principles. One very simple yet powerful concept is that of pitch and yaw.  Pitch is the thrusting outward force and yaw the receptive energy.  Here it is easy for an overlay to be seen with the yin yang understandings. I like to think the word Yoga had a little hint or message right there in the short 4 letters of the word. It is asking us, maybe telling us to – go ya. In other words right there in the name is the essence of the discipline: go yaw. We are being asked to do the work of the poses and stretches in order to set us up to receive.

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So in class we do the movements and breathing to get to a point where you can receive, as in yaw, after the pitching nature of your movements.

As in any Martial Art the original purpose of yoga is to create oneself as a a node of connection between higher and foundational energies.  Practice over time produces self knowledge. This in turn results in personal growth so one can better manage daily life to be able to participate in elevating self knowledge.

Yoga is amazing. After a class I feel my body on a subtle hum and my mind at peace (read I carry less internal friction based in the whims of the day).

The breathing, the stretching, the speeds all combine under the guidance of a teacher who lands us in shavasana (lying down ‘corpse pose’ that can be followed by seated meditation). This puts me in a place of readiness to offer high quality stillness to connect with higher realms of perception.

                                                                          So go ya(w)!


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Label Yourself

LABEL = Love and be Loved 

Seek something to love in the other person – Offer them something to love.

Seek their positive and the quirky aspects, the puzzling or the endearing habits.

Offer your time, offer your accompaniment in this stage of life, offer your perception about growing and acceptance of what needs to be forgiven.

Make the higher more important than the lower as an engine to generate self love.

Ego love.

Love the service that your ego provides to your higher development life.  The ego level of you needs approval and attention and to be included and feel important.  So you give it all those things.  But not at the expense of your ability to grow.  

You can do it.

You probably already are.  Just get better.