Your soul loves its job. Your soul loves being your soul.
This is the Red section. For lack of eloquence it can be plainly stated your Soul wants routine. It wants you to get stuff done so there is a sense of realization that can then be repeated. In the same action you get satisfaction. Your Red Art is to seek experience that delivers soul realization and personal satisfaction.
Find a way to make your seeking repeatable. And fun, intriguing, fruitful, inspiring. Find a way to share – other than Facebook. What are the many things you want to learn as a result of seeking for your soul.
Understand your Magnetic Strip. Like the black strip on your credit card that identifies your resources. What is your magnetic strip? What resources do you have because of your soul? What resources do you provide your soul? Like higher emotional content that is you wanting something greater than you. That can be in family or business or community.
I call it self love. Perhaps it is the same thing. Reading here may reveal we are on the same page or not. I would imagine we are.
The Book of Self-care by Mary Beth Janssen can be found here: https://www.chapters.indigo.ca/en-ca/books/the-book-of-self-care/9781454926313-item.html. Exercises and activities are always useful to get from advice to action. So check out the ones in this book.
It is important to note that maintenance is not growth. Maintenance is the soil for the seed of the soul. You germinate your higher soul with your sense of self love. Self love grows into the light, the warmth and transformative qualities associated with it.
Discover and share the unique of others. Highlight and refine the unique of you.
‘Hey! Leave me alone.’
Then came the answer. Rodrigo was 8 and yelling into the valley.
Hey leave me alone – the valley copies him.
Don’t copy me!!- Rodrigo yells and turns his back on the valley. He’s a funny, smart 8.
2 long seconds later –
Don’t copy me.
Amazing fealty for an echo. It is Instagram before Instagram: a brief recording of the moment and then it is gone. I guess it’s a combination of the low valley architecture furnished in green with pine trees and sloping hills.
We caught on to what Rodrigo was doing – it gave us a good laugh.
The power of our echo is amazing. The impact the rebounding of our words and actions have in the lives of others.
This duration and the degree of the echo are always a product of one’s emotions.
The more invested we are in the other person the greater the duration of the echo. That can work both ways.
Combine that with the intention of the person plus the context and the echo could provide an uplifting harmony or a deafening noise puke.
We, men and women, are governed by the need of being loved and loving someone else.
How do the results of the Female Frixion rebound off the walls of love of her spouse? It is the acoustics of his sense of value for himself. That value can be anchored in his family, in how he takes care of his tools, his income, what people think of his wife. His value can also be self generated – so that way it is associated with higher connection (in contrast to external value that is dependent upon likeability). His self value in conjunction with his male instinct determine the harmonies he hears between the 3 roles of his wife.
So when communicating the Female Frixion to her partner she will will feel received, understood and appreciated. Or if the man doesn’t grasp the concept of Female Frixion, the woman eddies in the river of communication, then he will substitute something else as his understanding of her message although it is inaccurate. And that will be the basis of his decision making about her from then on. Commonly labeled: happy wife – happy life. Or it can get adversarial between people and the Female Frixion is cemented as a 3 headed monster that is apparently the source of all marital issues.
Or with self-Love in both people it can be cultivated into
A tricycle of love.
There are no short cuts between you and the truth. Whether that be you and not feeling alone (short cut is to find someone not your wife);
Feeling disconnected with manhood in midlife (short cuts include but not limited to, drugs/alcohol).
Feeling loved and loving. (Short cuts too many to list but they all boil down to abandoning yourself as a man.) You have to do the work.
You can be smart about what you are struggling with. This means elevate your emotional agility to attract perception about how to struggle better, struggle happy, struggle together.
I saw a documentary years ago about women boxers.
Some women who go to the gym and learn to punch for self protection. There are those women who are professional boxers that live and train to fight.
And then there were the women that were the focus of this film. They are mothers and wives who have a full life and a full time job. And they box. They get into it for personal motivations that are part of their story.
I remember the single mother, let’s call her Suzie, being interviewed as she put her kit in the back of the car. Late 30’s, 2 children, at least 1 ex-husband, very cheerful. And she hits other women. For exercise!
I can imagine that it functions as therapy. So can shopping. And unless it is Black Friday nobody hits anyone.
So the stress release involved in boxing that Suzie feels is quite clear to see. The training required puts her into great shape. The adrenaline and associated hormones of landing a nice right hook help to feed part of her female life. So actually there is a lot of upside. As long as you don’t get knocked out.
Is that it? What else does she get out of it?
Doesn’t her body pay a price? They do have to wear protective head gear etc. Doesn’t it hurt? Yes. And without being sadistic, that’s part of the motivation. Part.
When you get hurt your body takes over the healing process. Without delay or excuses, with precision and efficiency: It is how the human body loves.
Even between rounds the body of a boxer starts to heal. Healing is miraculous and beautiful. And it feels good.
Suzie wants to feel good. Remember she is cheerful. With all of life’s challenges she has turned out to be a happy, middle-aged single mom (who you don’t want to fight over a parking spot):)
When healing the white blood cells protect a wound from infection. They also produce chemical messengers called growth factors that help repair wounds.
Dopamine helps regulate new blood vessel creation in the healing process of skin wounds. More wounds = more dopamine. Dopamine is a chemical in the brain that causes you to feel good.
Natural ways to generate dopamine are: exercise, meditation, sleep and certain foods to name a few. Destructive ways to generate dopamine are: alcohol , drugs and related poor lifestyle habits.
Dopamine can help us heal and also be a factor in cementing a habit. Whatever that habit might be: Smoking, drinking, boxing or getting hit by your boyfriend.
The hitting part hurts your face and damages your self esteem but the dopamine connects the whole process with getting better. So some people end up using cocaine to get the dopamine.
Some women don’t leave the violent boyfriend so they can get hit again to get the feel good of healing dopamine.
Here is a crazy idea – that part of the difficulty of women to leave an abusive relationship is because, mixed up with their level of self respect, they kind of want the next fix of a neurotransmitter released in the healing process?
Healing feels good. As it should – with all the goodies the body is generating. Don’t make healing from violence your source of feel good.
Find something that pulls you up into Your Best Ego. Could be dancing, cooking, organizing, being a good mother, forgiving, inviting someone, highlighting someone else’s good trait in a difficult situation or having a connection moment with nature. Your Best Ego is you choosing for yourself how to live. Your Best Ego includes people that bring respect. Your Best Ego is at a level of energy that generates healthy sources of happiness. Your Best Ego seeks value to keep growing.
Be like your body and bring the growth factor; be the growth factor.
It is true.
Is it true for you?
I was shaking – or rather I was being shaken. I was shook like never before.
I was on my knees with my head on my bed in search of a position where my body didn’t seem to vibrate me out of sanity. It was amazing! Don’t get me wrong – I am neither a hypochondriac nor a sadist. I don’t look for ways to be sick. The thing is it is increasingly amazing to me how the human body responds to illness, hostile bacteria and nasty viruses.
So I am so glad that my body fights back. Yes the experience is anywhere from a hassle of a few days to weeks of cough/vomit sessions but that is very likely better than no response at all (i.e. probable demise to the death). Thank you body for generating the energy and directing it with force against the flu, stopping a cold and damming the diarrhea. Thanks for the healing. After getting knocked out for a few days I am ready to rejoin the fight.
Healing brings our systems up to date.
Whatever part or function in us that needed healing is like an eddy in the river. An eddy is where the water whirlpools on one side as the river flows by. There are the swirls of bubbles that get caught in the elbow of a river until a new wave brings them back into the mainstream (pun intended) community. The eddy is still part of the river, never not wet but spinning in a smaller world until it rejoins the flow. Healing gets us back up to river speed.
Healing feels fabulous, refreshing, renewing. Funny, some of us might even help ourselves to get unwell. As in we damage/sabotage ourselves or relationships because the instantaneous natural healing response from our bodies and the earth can feel so good. It’s that adrenaline rush of injury or danger bringing us back into oneself by the beautifully efficient and loyal powers of healing. These powers return you to your best. The healing force is true to your development direction and stage in life.