What Is Your Photosynthesis?

 

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Plants gather elements and molecules.  They apply pigments and solar power.  They produce oxygen and sugar – agents of growth for the rest of us.

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What is your photosynthesis?
Your photosynthesis is when you combine things in the presence of something higher to make growth possible.

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This is you.

Creating.

Making something unique with universal ingredients.  Using your energy, your love, your warmth, your touch, that panache you bring that draws out their smile.

What are your raw materials and instigators for growth?  What do you make possible?

Your ingredients:
Your carbon dioxide is …
Your water is …

Your process:

Your sun is …
Your chlorophyll is …

Your result: 
your sugar is …
Your oxygen is …

Life Example:
Sun is your love of people learning
CO2 is your sense of humour
H2O is your spontaneity
Chlorophyll is your perception about people
Sugar is good conversation
O2 is new friendship

Work Example:
Sun is project
CO2 is staff
H2O is product
Chlorophyll is your leadership
Sugar is the feeling of good collaboration
O2 is the new business as a result

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What do you want your photosynthesis to cause …?  Think about it…. Think about it some more…again tomorrow and next week:)

 

 

 

 

The Solidarity of Self Love

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When you wake up and go to the bathroom you many not like what you see  in the mirror.   Those greenish purple bags under your eyes and wrinkles appearing or deepening.  Let’s not even start with that emerging belly …

If you experience yourself at an elevated level then you will love yourself.    Is that because you are such a great person?  Maybe:)  But really that is the normal sensation when we find ourselves in an elevated state of energy.   It has to do with less judgement and more understanding in the higher levels of the planet’s energy.

The Soul is always guiding us into growing and learning; positive and willing.  Creating routines and rituals that accompany your Soul is an effective and sustainable way to elevate your energy.  Being of sincere service to others is a rewarding way to elevate.  Reflecting on the grace and reliability of planet Earth can generate refined appreciation.
It is when we limit ourselves to daily level energy that love is challenged.
Insisting that our knowledge and love come from daily, ego friendly resources means we are fluent in: guilt and blame, judgement and doubts, arrogance and bitterness separated by random occurrences of compassion, appreciation, patience and possibly humility.

Knowing yourself at your Higher Soul level is to grasp that you are a congress of body, mind, Soul and Spirit.   Acting through any one of these agents of growth we can satisfy many development urges on our trajectory of energy elevation.

Find others on this trajectory.  Seek this solidarity of Self Love where others understand that what we give in appreciation or service to life we receive manifold in peace and perceptions.
Insist on your participation in this League of Souls who accept the task of elevating one’s energy level.
Practice Self Love in big and small ways. Learn what self love looks like in the short and long term. Apply the impact of self love to: health, business, parenting, marriage…
What is self love at different levels of energy and different stages of life?

To be clear the Self Love being talked about the appreciation for one as a person/man/woman.  This is Self Love as a foundation for growth in the subsequent stages of life.  A good reference to get a grasp on this is The Wild Coach post:

Your Best Ego  https://wordpress.com/read/blogs/152856538/posts/70

 

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When we embody Self Love we realize each person is to arrive at it in their own way of positive elevation through the permutations of: love, knowledge and self knowledge.  So we are in solidarity with their development journey.  We can learn from their unique persuasions of Self Love in the challenges of daily life.

Find the folks who are insistent on taking responsibility for their Self Love while at the same time sharing the struggle and the fruits.  As always you can look to nature – to the forest – for examples of the Solidarity of Self Love in action.  A reality where one loves themselves but not at the expense of their own growth or participating with others.

 

You have no equal

You are a unique universal event

 

 

When you are needed be ready with what they need.

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1. When they need direction use your sense of purpose to make your life interesting.

2.  When they need to establish standards offer them ideas of where to put their energy.

3. When they need to prioritize show them how to measure the relevance of things.

4. When they lack self love show them a person who radiates self knowledge.

5 .When they have initiative show them how not to fill it – let it be filled.

6. When they are searching for connection help them handle success and failure.

7. When they are decisive find out their beliefs.

Be The Man = Less Violence More …

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My wife and I finally went to that restaurant we had been meaning to go to for maybe a year.  It is in a neighbourhood where we don’t shop or go to often.  Returning from the bathroom I looked up over the doorway to the dining room and saw that famous quote attributed to Gandhi – ‘be the change you want to see in the world’.  Well, yes, yes, yes.  I agree.  I need to hear that and follow through on that everyday.  Now, I am adjusting that sentiment slightly – ‘be the man you want to meet in the world’.

Angry young men are angry young men for a reason.  In part they are angry because after puberty we all receive and process more higher energy.  The higher energy has more potency than we are used to receiving so if you don’t know how to deal with this new energy potency then it can be dangerous.  Imagine you park your Prius outside your home at night and wake up to see a Lamborghini in your parking spot.   You simply are not used to the power at your finger tips.  You don’t know how to direct the abundance of potential at your disposal.  It is this same influx of  life force that make young men feel invincible.  This can mean there are no second thoughts to drink and drive or do drugs or have unprotected sex or vandalize or be a bully.  Why do all those activities if they aren’t productive?  Well – to a young man that isn’t the point.
It is important to clarify here that it is crucial to get out there and have as much fun as possible.  Have a party, travel, take your selfies.  It is, however, not fun if someone else pays for the diversion.  That means your inner religious life shouldn’t be sacrificed by you being a slave to social media or other ego based pursuits.  Leave some time and energy to investigate your inner life.  Leave some energy for patience (as in patience for you to understand) to understand women because they are not men.
  Men generate violence because they don’t create other options. 
  Get patient:)  Get creative!  Get spontaneous!!
So why is bullying or vandalism so attractive to a young man?  The young, unaware men are just using up the energy they wake up with each day.  In fact if they don’t use it up then it gets bottled up and the result can be much worse.  Just think of the ‘incel’.  The involuntary celibate = incel.   Guys who struggle socially so they sit at their computer hating women.   These guys don’t understand what to do for themselves so they hate.  An easy target for their hate is women.  These guys actually don’t hate women.  They don’t know what to do to get happy, to be accepted or who to talk to who can meet them where they are at in life and help them grow.   Hate is not a good use of young man energy.
Our formal Faiths that are practiced in temples and churches are failing young men.  Men need tools for maximizing their daily energy and their elevated energy.  Because our society generates few real resources for higher energy focus this very potent force gets squeezed into the quotidian confines of looking for a (better)job, looking for a (better)life partner and figuring out how to look cool and make money.
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We need relevant steps and tools for the spiritual aspect of life. (Check out other Wild Coach posts)

We as a society do not give our young men the references needed to understand this force that wants to convert him into a vibrant power. We do not provide inspiring opportunities for men to express themselves and figure things out.  We provide the internet and floundering faiths.  They need a scale of stuff to do and a reason for it so they can bridge intensity of youth into intention of life.

We as men cannot continue making women pay for our ignorance of what a man is and the stages he goes through in life.  We need to know what those stages are asking of a man so he can respond and feel accomplished.  So he can offer not just a bruised or inflated ego but also emotional agility instead of fragility!
Look up, breathe, smile and be the man you want to meet in the mirror, in the world.

I.D.E.A.

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IDEA
Simple tool to get results when taking responsibility for ones emotions,
mental well being and development journey.
I for is Intention – Clarifying what you want to do (Daily) or to cause (Elevated)
D is for Daily– The impact you are aiming for that day in your economic and family life
E is for Elevated – What residue you want in your private/soul life as a result of applying the work towards your Higher self/Spiritual life.
A is for Action – The initiative that attracts positive energy whether you are asking for help, offering it or anything in between that keeps you true to your intention.

The Conflict of the 3 lives Vs Man Dealing

 

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In the hit movie Crazy Rich Asians the mother of the protagonist is Eleanor Young played by Michelle Yeoh.  She plays the part with icy precision.  She tells her son Nick’s latest girlfriend Rachel that a woman does not follow her personal passion at the expense of her family duty.  That comment encapsulates the conflict that women have to deal with.  The task of prioritizing and investing energy and time in one aspect of their life at the expense of others.  Specifically being looked at here are three aspects of our life: the adventure life, the professional life and the maternal life.

Now men have their paternal life that they have also to balance with the satisfaction of their professional and emotional lives.  A man’s life can be rich, deep and layered (not that guys ever talk about it).  However it seems that the internal management of these three lives does not incur the same degree of internal conflict as it does in a woman.  That is not to say that men are better at personal life management because we all know that isn’t true.  There are many a man out there who is lost inside himself and would be lost in his daily life if a woman (mother, girlfriend, sister, or his partner) did not keep him on track with a progression of simple life hacks.

It is not that hard to see how  this difference between men and women can then lead to conflict between them.  Men often can’t grasp how these same three categories of daily life instigate so much drama in a woman.  For the man there is no conflict between these lives.  They are to be prioritized and dealt with.  Welcome to  ‘Man Dealing’.

An expression of Man Dealing can be that he understands, in the moment, that his wife needs what she needs.  Whether it be a massage, arrive home to a clean house or to jump in her car and see someone filled the car with gas so she doesn’t have to stand out there in the wind of a blowing cold, dark January morning for five minutes filling the thing up.  The uncomplicated way of Man Dealing can be useful and efficient.  Not to mention a huge relief so a woman doesn’t have to ask for things or explain why she wants them.

On the other hand the cold satisfaction of Man Dealing can be a massive frustration for women and has no doubt played a part in many an argument.  This can involve him getting angry, fed up, frustrated from his lack of understanding of these three life currents.  A woman feels these currents as three distinct tributaries flowing into a greater river.  A man sees one river, feels one river and makes decisions based on that river.  And that is why, at least inside the man, there is no conflict.  So, according to him, there is nothing to talk about .  Its pretty straightforward.

These life currents have different implications for a woman.  Having children does not impact a man and woman in the same way: physically, psychologically and in terms of the Satisfaction and Fulfillment experience (see my article on Satisfaction and Fulfillment on The Wild Coach blog).  With the hope/expectancy/preparation of having children means the Professional life of a woman will almost certainly be on hiatus, stop or change.  Having a child or children quite possibly translates into less of an adventure life.  Adventure can mean romance, travel, active social life, independence.   Having a family is a nuclear reaction in a woman’s maternal life.

So for women it is a conflict that is not a problem.   However many a problem has been born from the poor management of this reality by both men and women.   There is no female deficiency or lack of feminine perception.   Communication is a two way street.

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Stop The Presses

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The Joker is mesmerized by the photo of Vicki Vale in a photo and says …
you guessed it,
“Stop the presses!!!”

That was from the Batman movie of 1989 with Jack Nicholson falling in lust for Kim Bassinger.  That was when we knew what the phrase meant and where it actually came from.

Even with the decline of print media it is still a great phrase to communicate your amazement at something that takes you by surprise – like when you walk by your teenager’s room freshly cleaned room?!:)

The ‘presses’ being alluded to here are a few incumbent processes on our developing lives.  Depression is getting more air time these days and that is great for those who can use the relief of being able to just talk about what they are feeling as a way to ‘take out the garbage’ and move on.  That is one of the presses: depression.  One of the pressures we feel as we grow and struggle with everything from identity to career choice to life partner choice to adding and subtracting to our beliefs.  Unto itself depression is sickening but it can somehow deliver a sense of belonging that can confuse us into thinking we want to stay under that cloud. That we are happier where we are depressed?!?

Repression of emotions is another effective and common press – ure we feel on a daily basis.  We don’t speak our mind at work about our feelings regarding incompetent politicians that seem to be multiplying internationally. Or we resist challenging cultural assumptions like polite Canadians, ignorant Americans, feminism or manism (what it means to be putting authentic man into the world).  These are daily emotions that we may not speak, we repress, for fear or repercussions.

Repression continues when we resist answering any kind of higher calling.  A higher calling doesn’t imply the priesthood – but it comes from the same source for the same reason.  This is where our society (education, religion, corporate) is failing – in a big bad way.  Soul satisfaction is calling, is available, is normal/natural/necessary and we aren’t sure who is calling, why, what the message is and how to respond.  We repress our searching urge with elegant distractions like shopping, social media, hobbies, travel and even religion.  In fact none of these things is bad and some are excellent manners of personal growth but not at the expense of souling.  Feeling lost is the best thing that can happen to you if can locate the desire, the external help, the internal resources to forge your path into the future.  We can’t kid ourselves – there are very few of us in our daily lives who use same the tools and techniques of living a modern life to investigate and understand what to do about fate and destiny.  We repress the real reality of being called to a development journey and its painful.

Compressor – compression – compress – that’s the name of the game.  Take life and get the residue out of it that is valuable for daily success and elevated connection. Go for it!  Try it.  Think about it.  Ask the morning breeze about it as you walk through the park early morning, lunch break, late evening.