They Don’t Understand Women – AYM4

How young men end up being angry young men and probably violent even though they don’t want to be.

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A man by design is an authentic, brave, believing expression of the man version of human.

Alas, what you meet on the street or get into an elevator with is likely an insecure jumble of random goals, half baked intentions and unrealistic self-help affirmations.

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Regardless of his facade many a man is a cocktail of doubt and aggression. In many of us men this seamlessly translates into very little self-confidence to access our natural emotional agility to be able to listen. We can listen. We listen to deliver satisfaction. However if the person speaking seeks fulfillment, instead of getting either satisfaction or fulfillment, we have conflict.

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Men are great at one thing: being men. The art of Being a man is doing that one thing to get many results. Like going to work pays you money but also brings you satisfaction, admiration from your family, peace for spouse/children and life education for challenges ahead.

Society’s life education about men and women is lacking to the point of being harmful. Therefore the level of man in the world today is low when compared to our abilities and innate sentiments.

It is exactly these beautiful emotions a man has for those who surround him that he needs to shine on himself. That way each man can be his own salvation or inspiration or …

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Now because women are naturally different they very often arrive at certain insights via different avenues before a man does. Women might assume that men will, and should, have complimentary insights.

Our history of interpersonal conflict illustrates that men don’t work like that at a societal level. We can create a new narrative for men.

A man connected to his natural spontaneity, vision and get-up-and-go will have put himself in the position to observe the similarities with women in the desire to grow and the differences in their expressions.

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Flavoured Water

Every morning I drop one or two wrinkled pods of dried cardamom into my coffee/spice grinder to grind with the coffee beans. The fine grind is flecked with the light green of the ground cardamom. I love the smell of fresh ground coffee probably more than drinking the coffee itself.

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We actually just got back from an autumn weekend in a rented cabin and all my coffee paraphernalia came with us. It means we are not buying coffee that is more costly and generates waste vía cups, lids and stir sticks. Before bed we have started drinking a cinnamon/ginger brew to boost our immune system. My favourite drink during the day is a bit of fresh hibiscus tea mixed with sparkling water. Super refreshing.

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Whether it is tea or coffee, cola, wine or whiskey. Coconut water, kombucha or beer. All of these are water based drinks. Some have sugar or fruit. Others are healthy. Again others fermented. Some are popular drinks because they taste good, a few for their rejuvenation factor and others are a success of marketing.

Water is to our body as oil is to the car engine. We are 70% water each of us. That kind of makes us, or our body, a bottle of water. How do we flavour our water?

Dr. Masaru Emoto pioneered the research into the consciousness of water. Based on experiments with water and music he concluded that we flavour our corporeal water with what we think, feel and do. The residue of these impressions settles in our blood, bones and organs where the water is at work. We flavour our water with life; good and bad, high and low, as a victim or author of our response to each stage of development.

But often it is the label of our human water bottle that we focus on most of the time.

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We get caught up in the image so often that the ingredients, or their production, gets minimized.

We are born with 2 eyes, 10 fingers and a little hair all of us. What anchors your existence is a planetary soul. That soul gets imprinted with the genes you are going to give expression to in your daily life and give continuance to by your life journey. So those eyes might be green. Those fingers could be brown. And that hair might be black. We all have eyes, fingers and hair but we are all so different. Why?

Race, religion, culture, upbringing and education. All of these are ingredients that get integrated into your soul. It takes a strong desire and sensitivity to interpret the soul and not get distracted by the ego of the image.

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What does it take to be a Sommelier of the soul? Because, if you think about it, we are flavoured water. How would the sommelier describe your soul? A hint of creativity, bold and upfront, goes great with fish? Refreshing! No bitter aftertaste:)

Anti-Aging formula

Be free! Be radical! Just don’t let them run rampant in your body because that is going to make you old, older, oldish. Free radicals cause aging. Smiles and wrinkles are free. Thinking for yourself keeps you right on track with whatever age you are.

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What is the oldest anti-aging product in the history of those sorts of things?

Funny. Use something old so you don’t become old. Is that hypocrisy? Marketing?

Is this one of those ads at the back of a magazine in the classifieds?

The natural way not not to age is to grow.

Obviously:). We are not talking about freezing your body or botoxing or any medical procedure.

We are talking about your mindset. And what life development trajectory that puts you on.

Because we all get old.

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Day by day.

We all get wrinkles, lose hair, slow down, change priorities. That is different from aging.

Aging is when we cannot flow with the progression of life stages. Each life stage offers us the necessary energies and knowings to participate in it. Each stage also requires our participation be regenerative. To be clear being regenerative is taking what you are given and making something positive with it. It might not be fair or fun but it is wise. And wisdom is the residue of operating with an elder mindset. It’s an attitude that can form and construct the foundation for your next stage in life.

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So be nice. And grow. Grow up. Towards the light. Grow more curious and thorough as you grow old. Grow the service aspect of your life. Service to others, the planet, your body, your soul.

Define Cool

Define ‘Cool’

Tennis great Roger Federer after an awesome back hand winner down the line as he walks pensive to the other side of the court to receive serve. Severely champion cool.

Rupi Kaur the Indian/Canadian poet has her own version of cool: smile, flick of the long black hair with the hand while eyes thinking of how to connect next. Poet cool.

On the inside, after you have done something authentic you are cooling down:

Authentic talent, authentic effort, authentic bringing things together for an elevated result.

Now your blood is reorganizing itself based on the impact of your new experience.

From the outside, this is magnetic to people’s attention even if they don’t know why. They usually don’t know why. This mystical magnetism is what we call cool.

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Create cool.

Cool outfit. Cool car you fixed up. Cool upholding the truth when someone was bad-mouthing your buddy. Cool fade away jumper.

Professional Posers like the Kardashians imitate cool. They are brittle and hollow while the cool you is agile and spontaneous. The cool you is in the zone and loves being loved.

Funny thing is for the real cool what acutally happens is you heat up your blood. In your blood lives your history, your initiative, your best and your worst. Cool means knowing the worst and focusing on your best.

To get to cool you draw on your personal history of struggle, of growing and learning, of visualizing and wanting, recalibrating after a defeat and of allowing yourself to be inspired. Cool comes once you put your vulnerable/yet confident/authentic self out there; living your life now – then you rest and your blood cools down. That’s when you bask in the glow of your cooling blood that loved the vigour of sincere human effort.

GO YAW!

Go Yaw.

George Gurdjieff the mystic and spiritual teacher spoke about universal forces and principles. One very simple yet powerful concept is that of pitch and yaw.  Pitch is the thrusting outward force and yaw the receptive energy.  Here it is easy for an overlay to be seen with the yin yang understandings. I like to think the word Yoga had a little hint or message right there in the short 4 letters of the word. It is asking us, maybe telling us to – go ya. In other words right there in the name is the essence of the discipline: go yaw. We are being asked to do the work of the poses and stretches in order to set us up to receive.

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So in class we do the movements and breathing to get to a point where you can receive, as in yaw, after the pitching nature of your movements.

As in any Martial Art the original purpose of yoga is to create oneself as a a node of connection between higher and foundational energies.  Practice over time produces self knowledge. This in turn results in personal growth so one can better manage daily life to be able to participate in elevating self knowledge.

Yoga is amazing. After a class I feel my body on a subtle hum and my mind at peace (read I carry less internal friction based in the whims of the day).

The breathing, the stretching, the speeds all combine under the guidance of a teacher who lands us in shavasana (lying down ‘corpse pose’ that can be followed by seated meditation). This puts me in a place of readiness to offer high quality stillness to connect with higher realms of perception.

                                                                          So go ya(w)!

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Label Yourself

LABEL = Love and be Loved 

Seek something to love in the other person – Offer them something to love.

Seek their positive and the quirky aspects, the puzzling or the endearing habits.

Offer your time, offer your accompaniment in this stage of life, offer your perception about growing and acceptance of what needs to be forgiven.

Make the higher more important than the lower as an engine to generate self love.

 

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Ego love.

Love the service that your ego provides to your higher development life.  The ego level of you needs approval and attention and to be included and feel important.  So you give it all those things.  But not at the expense of your ability to grow.  

You can do it.

You probably already are.  Just get better.

 

The Solidarity of Self Love

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When you wake up and go to the bathroom you many not like what you see  in the mirror.   Those greenish purple bags under your eyes and wrinkles appearing or deepening.  Let’s not even start with that emerging belly …

If you experience yourself at an elevated level then you will love yourself.    Is that because you are such a great person?  Maybe:)  But really that is the normal sensation when we find ourselves in an elevated state of energy.   It has to do with less judgement and more understanding in the higher levels of the planet’s energy.

The Soul is always guiding us into growing and learning; positive and willing.  Creating routines and rituals that accompany your Soul is an effective and sustainable way to elevate your energy.  Being of sincere service to others is a rewarding way to elevate.  Reflecting on the grace and reliability of planet Earth can generate refined appreciation.
It is when we limit ourselves to daily level energy that love is challenged.
Insisting that our knowledge and love come from daily, ego friendly resources means we are fluent in: guilt and blame, judgement and doubts, arrogance and bitterness separated by random occurrences of compassion, appreciation, patience and possibly humility.

Knowing yourself at your Higher Soul level is to grasp that you are a congress of body, mind, Soul and Spirit.   Acting through any one of these agents of growth we can satisfy many development urges on our trajectory of energy elevation.

Find others on this trajectory.  Seek this solidarity of Self Love where others understand that what we give in appreciation or service to life we receive manifold in peace and perceptions.
Insist on your participation in this League of Souls who accept the task of elevating one’s energy level.
Practice Self Love in big and small ways. Learn what self love looks like in the short and long term. Apply the impact of self love to: health, business, parenting, marriage…
What is self love at different levels of energy and different stages of life?

To be clear the Self Love being talked about the appreciation for one as a person/man/woman.  This is Self Love as a foundation for growth in the subsequent stages of life.  A good reference to get a grasp on this is The Wild Coach post:

Your Best Ego  https://wordpress.com/read/blogs/152856538/posts/70

 

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When we embody Self Love we realize each person is to arrive at it in their own way of positive elevation through the permutations of: love, knowledge and self knowledge.  So we are in solidarity with their development journey.  We can learn from their unique persuasions of Self Love in the challenges of daily life.

Find the folks who are insistent on taking responsibility for their Self Love while at the same time sharing the struggle and the fruits.  As always you can look to nature – to the forest – for examples of the Solidarity of Self Love in action.  A reality where one loves themselves but not at the expense of their own growth or participating with others.

 

You have no equal

You are a unique universal event