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Your Support Matters — Where Once We Stood
A reminder to support a creator this week! We could all use the help. I’m in a little better position now than I was and its in no small part due to the support of folks just like you…. through buying a calendar, a print, a coffee or sponsoring a kilometre. Even the act of […]
Your Support Matters — Where Once We Stood
Put Down The Phone
For 2021 the Chinese zodiac has rotated back to the year of the Golden Cow. It is also associated with the White Ox and the Metal Bull. For most people as long as it is not the year of 2020 it will be a good year.
Could it also be the year of PDTP? No, that is not a spelling mistake for the PTSD many might feel from the impact of the Covid pandemic. PDTP here means Put Down The Phone. Put it away and look up at the world around you.
No doubt you have had the experience of jumping out of the way from someone who is walking down the street while immersed in the world of their phone. I bet we all have been that person once. When we do this we are oblivious to others who have to avoid us so we don’t crash into each other. What message or instrgram post was so much more important than respect and safety?
Put Down The Phone. Put it away and engage with your surroundings.
Here is a 5 minute exercise to give you power over your phone.
You are going to send a message. But you ask ‘How do I send a message without using my phone?’ Good question.
By using your mind.
Do you mind 🙂 … using your mind?
To use your mind you need to focus. The first step to focus (once you’ve put the phone down) is to breathe.
Let your breath help you relax your shoulders.
Keep collecting a few more life carrying breaths … now connect with nature.
Send your focus to something you see or imagine a place you know. It can be a plant in your home or a forest you love to frequent.
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Breathe into your connection.
Allow your mental connection to fill your body. The connection can travel. Through your arteries – flavouring your blood – loading into your bones.
Maybe you will remain in this ‘loading the bones with energy’ state for a few minutes; and then you send your message to nature. Or it could be that you will cycle through the mind-arteries-bones-veins-mind-message-to-nature a few times in your 5 minutes.
Your mental/emotional offering flows into your mind, towards your anchor point of connection. You send your Authentic Intelligence in the form of your appreciation, or perhaps wonder or positive possibility.
Bask in the feeling of well-being from participating in nature, with the planet. Give, if you choose, your 5 minute process a name. Repeat it. Share it, if you wish.
1 Minute Wilderness – Golden
re-Purpose
A former manager once dropped into my office and quickly put a gift bag between the wall and my computer terminal. He timed it well so I was busy with someone so he just smiled, nodded and left. It was mid December and so he was receiving lots of Christmas gifts from every direction. I didn’t expect anything from him and I am pretty sure he had no intention of getting me anything. For me the company wasn’t a place I belonged and for him I didn’t solve his problems with his bosses. And then appeared a bottle of scotch in my office in a gift bag lacking the colourful tissue paper. I can’t remember the last time I drank scotch. Which means that I either binge drink it or never drink it. I had never talked about scotch at work. So obviously he was regifting the bottle.
Regifting is a useful practice. Re-gifting means more people get gifts which means more happy people and less consumerism and waste of wrapping paper. It’s logical and heartwarming. It works. I drank the scotch.
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Regifting and repurposing could both be seen as changing the direction of the same thing. You can repurpose tires into jewelry, plastic into a fleece pullover, a boyfriend into a husband, an old silver fork into a bracelet, a pop bottle into a flower pot, a stump into a stool and on and on.
Life stages thrust this reality of ‘the new you’ unto us. Our curious child repurposes into a rebellious youth into the sceptical young adult into that focused adult who grows into an elderly sage. In the beautifully painful transition known as death, the sage repurposes into spirit.
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There is some art to repurposing. Simply said – don’t change too much. Change as much as you have to while staying loyal to what you know is real. What is true about you is the eternal you. This is what anchors the local you through the bumpy transition from one stage to the next. Your eternal you, your higher self, loves to elevate on the journey your soul is opening up for you.
Prayer To The Nature Spirits
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The snow is falling as you would expect on an early Saturday morning – with beautiful confidence but in no hurry. The temperature was around zero and the sun was coming up on the other side of the lake so my dreamy snowflakes won’t last long. The lake felt pretty dam cold if you put your hand in there. The air was so clean I couldn’t even find a smell. The night was still intact along the pebble beach. A few pieces of plastic and water-ground glass. Even a few embers glowed in the smoky bonfire from the night before.
From nature we get refreshed and refilled with energy and clarity of vision.
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Breathing in … we welcome into our lives, into our body, nature. So, with wonder, we want to be friends with you – the nature spirits. So, nature spirits, a message …
Your loyalty to yourself and service to planet Earth is admirable. Elusive to my mind is how your brilliance happens but my soul knows that accompanying you spirits, in the moment, will grace me, anyone, with your residue.
The clean way of your work is a theatre of the future overflowing with enthusiasm into today.
The gentleness of your attendance to all of us, the variety of persons we are, is appreciated. Picture: The old oak leaning over the path; the littlest rapids bubbling over the rapids in the creek; the wind’s choreographing the canopy dance of maple and elm trunks with birch and spruce branches; the fragrant minerals of mud absorbing fallen autumn leaves – We love how your agility to anchor yourself in any part of nature without judgement enhances wherever you anchor.
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Nature … is the melody of the planet’s song. The fairies, gnomes, salamanders, sparks and sparkles of light quick, quickly are the libretto. We feel your harmony of this song in the moment, in the place: the lapping waves on the short pebble beach, the creaking tree limbs loving the yoga of gusty winds; or, inside the minute magnificence of ongoing photosynthesis putting to use the energy of the day.
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