Lable yourself

LABLE

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Love and be loved  = Lable 

Seek something to love in the other person and Offer them something to love.

Make the higher more important than the lower – as a first step look for solidarity-in- love with others.  If they can’t locate their higher self then be their external resource for them to generate self love.  Think about it – now – and again.

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Ego love.  Love the service that your ego provides to your higher development life.  The ego level of you needs approval and attention to be included and feel important.  So you seek people that give you all those things.  But not at the expense of your ability to grow.  Remember Your Best Ego is the foundation for your Higher Soul.  

Who taught you how to love?

Excellent question …

John Eli

I’ve been privileged to sit underneath the multitude of talented & knowledgeable teachers. My life journey took me through the public school system, community colleges, 3 different universities, and to earning graduate degrees in business administration & psychology. In addition I’ve sat under advanced theological teachings in church settings & personal growth seminars. However, a few years ago I had the realization that, in all my learning, no one ever taught me how to love. And yes, I have been presented theory on what love should look like (especially in church settings), but many of the examples presented to me fell far from the standard given.

How did you learn to love?
Who taught you?
How do you personally know that you are loving others to the fullest?
These are a sample of questions that I ask others on my journey to be a more loving husband, son, friend…

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The Solidarity of Self Love

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When you wake up and go to the bathroom you many not like what you see  in the mirror.   Those greenish purple bags under your eyes and wrinkles appearing or deepening.  Let’s not even start with that emerging belly …

If you experience yourself at an elevated level then you will love yourself.    Is that because you are such a great person?  Maybe:)  But really that is the normal sensation when we find ourselves in an elevated state of energy.   It has to do with less judgement and more understanding in the higher levels of the planet’s energy.

The Soul is always guiding us into growing and learning; positive and willing.  Creating routines and rituals that accompany your Soul is an effective and sustainable way to elevate your energy.  Being of sincere service to others is a rewarding way to elevate.  Reflecting on the grace and reliability of planet Earth can generate refined appreciation.
It is when we limit ourselves to daily level energy that love is challenged.
Insisting that our knowledge and love come from daily, ego friendly resources means we are fluent in: guilt and blame, judgement and doubts, arrogance and bitterness separated by random occurrences of compassion, appreciation, patience and possibly humility.

Knowing yourself at your Higher Soul level is to grasp that you are a congress of body, mind, Soul and Spirit.   Acting through any one of these agents of growth we can satisfy many development urges on our trajectory of energy elevation.

Find others on this trajectory.  Seek this solidarity of Self Love where others understand that what we give in appreciation or service to life we receive manifold in peace and perceptions.
Insist on your participation in this League of Souls who accept the task of elevating one’s energy level.
Practice Self Love in big and small ways. Learn what self love looks like in the short and long term. Apply the impact of self love to: health, business, parenting, marriage…
What is self love at different levels of energy and different stages of life?

To be clear the Self Love being talked about the appreciation for one as a person/man/woman.  This is Self Love as a foundation for growth in the subsequent stages of life.  A good reference to get a grasp on this is The Wild Coach post:

Your Best Ego  https://wordpress.com/read/blogs/152856538/posts/70

 

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When we embody Self Love we realize each person is to arrive at it in their own way of positive elevation through the permutations of: love, knowledge and self knowledge.  So we are in solidarity with their development journey.  We can learn from their unique persuasions of Self Love in the challenges of daily life.

Find the folks who are insistent on taking responsibility for their Self Love while at the same time sharing the struggle and the fruits.  As always you can look to nature – to the forest – for examples of the Solidarity of Self Love in action.  A reality where one loves themselves but not at the expense of their own growth or participating with others.

 

You have no equal

You are a unique universal event

 

 

When you are needed be ready with what they need.

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1. When they need direction use your sense of purpose to make your life interesting.

2.  When they need to establish standards offer them ideas of where to put their energy.

3. When they need to prioritize show them how to measure the relevance of things.

4. When they lack self love show them a person who radiates self knowledge.

5 .When they have initiative show them how not to fill it – let it be filled.

6. When they are searching for connection help them handle success and failure.

7. When they are decisive find out their beliefs.

Make Important things Important

 

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My golden retriever didn’t go pee for about 10 minutes.  She had been in the van almost 2 hours but when she jumped out she could smell something.  My wife thought it was a skunk but it was late March and they didn’t seem to common during the spring thaw.  Her retriever nose was sniffing so much I thought she was going to hyperventilate because I didn’t hear any exhale.  She was pulling hard on the long red leash taking us to the edge of the gravel/mud/grass parking lot of the fairgrounds.  She made her search for possible squirrels/rabbits/chipmunks or even a fox – the all consuming priority.  Completely focused.  Admirable.

Apply that to us.

Make Important Things important.

Everything has a reason.

But not everything merits the same amount of investment of your energy.

Our daily life challenge is to educate ourselves how to manage our energy.  Implicit in this education is to identify and prioritize the higher purpose we all have that tugs at our sub conscious.  As a way to self educate (instead of self medicate with delusions or distractive hobbies or actual drugs) is to know what we can do for ourselves about ourselves.

We can build our ego into our Best Ego because it is the foundation for growth.

We can find soul level resources from inspiring people, from our Faith, from nature, from taking the time to be in the moment.  This soul level is important because it is where lives the residue of the human qualities we uphold.

 

Human is important because it is where we get meaning for continuance

So we can see not everything has the same role or purpose because there are different levels of energy and fatality that they are connected to.  Being petty and impatient is connected to an egotistical ego that is addicted to incoming, positive energy about it; only.  Your Best Ego has a lot of positive energy about how you interact in the world to get an overflowing result that makes you feel great and endears you to people.  Best Ego energy has the role of making today, now, you the best – for a good reason.  That reason is …

The Soul

Soul energy has the role of getting you destinic.  Of giving you the sense of being part of a greater purpose.  That greater purpose comes to use via the agency of …

The spirit.  The role of the spirit is to stay true to itself.  The by product of that is we have the opportunity to partner our life with spirit level future.

Big Stuff!

Amazing stuff.

Think about it!

Do something about it!:)

Make your ego your Best Ego because it is important that you believe in you and what you do.  This is important because it supports your soul.  Let your curiosity make following your soul urges important aspect of your life.  Both of these say to the higher realms that you believe the spirit is important.

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The Conflict of the 3 lives Vs Man Dealing

 

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In the hit movie Crazy Rich Asians the mother of the protagonist is Eleanor Young played by Michelle Yeoh.  She plays the part with icy precision.  She tells her son Nick’s latest girlfriend Rachel that a woman does not follow her personal passion at the expense of her family duty.  That comment encapsulates the conflict that women have to deal with.  The task of prioritizing and investing energy and time in one aspect of their life at the expense of others.  Specifically being looked at here are three aspects of our life: the adventure life, the professional life and the maternal life.

Now men have their paternal life that they have also to balance with the satisfaction of their professional and emotional lives.  A man’s life can be rich, deep and layered (not that guys ever talk about it).  However it seems that the internal management of these three lives does not incur the same degree of internal conflict as it does in a woman.  That is not to say that men are better at personal life management because we all know that isn’t true.  There are many a man out there who is lost inside himself and would be lost in his daily life if a woman (mother, girlfriend, sister, or his partner) did not keep him on track with a progression of simple life hacks.

It is not that hard to see how  this difference between men and women can then lead to conflict between them.  Men often can’t grasp how these same three categories of daily life instigate so much drama in a woman.  For the man there is no conflict between these lives.  They are to be prioritized and dealt with.  Welcome to  ‘Man Dealing’.

An expression of Man Dealing can be that he understands, in the moment, that his wife needs what she needs.  Whether it be a massage, arrive home to a clean house or to jump in her car and see someone filled the car with gas so she doesn’t have to stand out there in the wind of a blowing cold, dark January morning for five minutes filling the thing up.  The uncomplicated way of Man Dealing can be useful and efficient.  Not to mention a huge relief so a woman doesn’t have to ask for things or explain why she wants them.

On the other hand the cold satisfaction of Man Dealing can be a massive frustration for women and has no doubt played a part in many an argument.  This can involve him getting angry, fed up, frustrated from his lack of understanding of these three life currents.  A woman feels these currents as three distinct tributaries flowing into a greater river.  A man sees one river, feels one river and makes decisions based on that river.  And that is why, at least inside the man, there is no conflict.  So, according to him, there is nothing to talk about .  Its pretty straightforward.

These life currents have different implications for a woman.  Having children does not impact a man and woman in the same way: physically, psychologically and in terms of the Satisfaction and Fulfillment experience (see my article on Satisfaction and Fulfillment on The Wild Coach blog).  With the hope/expectancy/preparation of having children means the Professional life of a woman will almost certainly be on hiatus, stop or change.  Having a child or children quite possibly translates into less of an adventure life.  Adventure can mean romance, travel, active social life, independence.   Having a family is a nuclear reaction in a woman’s maternal life.

So for women it is a conflict that is not a problem.   However many a problem has been born from the poor management of this reality by both men and women.   There is no female deficiency or lack of feminine perception.   Communication is a two way street.

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