I think my parents were going to name me Catherine if I was a girl. If their child had been born a girl or had been given a different name, the same fundamental process of life still awaited the baby. The name we use to identify ourselves is a label more for the other people in life than for oneself.
Your name might resonate with you, as it fits your personality. Your name might be the same as your dad and implying you are the junior version of him. This is looking at names from a management or cultural view point.
Thinking about names from a viewpoint that humans are on a development journey that requires us to respond to many influences from the planet, people and unseen sources of energy. These unseen sources include the energetic changes that are associated with each new stage in life. We are quite possibly a very different person within a few years of having passed the threshold of youth into adulthood.
Some cultures have their elders provide a ‘sacred name’ to the child to be a reminder and guide throughout their life. Along those lines below are ideas for taking charge of your own name and thus your life.
The name you are given —
Child – What you are called – the name your parents gave you. Recognize and appreciate the foundation that resides in that name that provides the leverage for your growth as a man. This is your Foundation Name. It encapsulates your birth, your hunger for learning, your child’s love of life and the awkwardness of growing into your body and identity. This name stays with you through all of life’s stages. It is like a fresh mountain stream that is the clean source of your memories. It is the holding name for your initial connection with your life’s trajectory and your authenticity with that signal.
The name you choose —
Adult – What you want – the name that you decide reflects your synthesis of the inner and outer experiences, feelings and sensations. This is your Synthesis Name. You are a nexus of so many currents and threads, stages and lives, directions and levels, needs and wants. All of this is happening while you are tasked with being an integral member of many communities that include your marriage, family, neighbourhood, manhood, soulhood and a passenger on planet earth. Synthesising is you thriving in the moment of the current life stage you are living so that you derive satisfaction from how you live everyday life. That way your wife does not become responsible for your lack of satisfaction you feel because you were too busy with paternal/family/professional responsibilities. Then, as an elder you have a sense of accomplishment and of having contributed to the learning, growth and development of your communities.
The name that chooses you —
Elder – What you represent – to the continuance of the human story, to your communities, to the planet, to your soul accompanying your spirit into the universe. Your significance to the planet may be difficult to know while you are in the middle of striving in daily life to make a living and find meaning. So that name can be elusive. And that is why it is called the Mystery Name. Even if we don’t know what is always happening it is important to highlight the ideas and qualities that you feel resonate with your Mystery Name. This sensitivity to recognize what fits with this next stage of life is a real challenge that can be frustrating and seemingly have no progress. As you encounter success, challenges and failures in all stages of life you are in an ongoing process of consciously sowing the seeds of your eldership.