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The fine in Ontario for distracted driving as of 2020 is $615 if settled out of court and $1000 if you go to court and lose. When the province first rolled out the fines in 2013 they started at $290. With such a prevalence of distracted driving the fines have shot up and the police are more vigilant. Part of the message is: focus. Do one thing to get many results. Drive to work so you can make money. But also by driving to work, you are getting to your palace of Professional Satisfaction. Maybe you really like driving so it too gives you Satisfaction.
What would happen if we had a distracted living law? Meaning if you strayed too far away from what you want then there would be repercussions. Or if you deviated for far from pursuing your purpose then there would be a price to pay.
To help us focus on what we want that will produce Satisfaction in us we can get help
Ask:
1 – What do I want?
2 – What do I need to do to get it?
3 – Why do I want it?
For each of these three questions above we need to resist the following in yourself to derive Satisfaction from pursuing what you want:
1 – Sources of distraction
2 – Habits that drain resources
3 – Limiting Beliefs that need updating
I am responsible for my Satisfaction. I can find Sources of motivation, Habits that build focus on growth and Beliefs that include the Daily and Devotional aspects of my Emotional Profile.
Shirking the responsibility for your personal growth and then using the dark techniques of blame, shame and guilt on one’s spouse, because you refuse to see you are accountable for your Satisfaction, is dirty and corrupting of man force. We all know this road can lead to misunderstanding, anger, fights and in the most immature and stubborn cases, it is the root of violence.
No man wants to hear that he is failing at manhood, that he is not a warm and understanding spouse. We all falter in that aspect at some point. The crucial point is what we do with our energy as a result of getting that feedback. The man who wants to offer his spouse a gentleman finds the ways and the human qualities to man up in the moment. He uses his humility and self respect. He asks questions and says how he feels. He applies his awareness of the Female Friction to the situation thus being proactive and emotionally agile.
Each person is different based on their unique soul, genes, family situation, society and events. So what you want is not what your father or brother wants for themselves or for you. That is why it is useful to establish, repeat and refine what you want.
Ask:
What do I love about how what I want makes me into a better man?
Striving for what I want as a man elevates me into the higher part of my soul. This experience uses vision to attract new perception and convert obstacles into new possibilities. What does this elevated me make possible? ____________________
What does seeking what I want cause in others?
What do you want for your three lives: Paternal, Romantic, Professional?
What kind of father do you want to be?
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Or if you are not a father, what do you want to highlight in those men who have children?
What kind of husband do you want to be? Who do you want to emulate as a father? Share your thoughts on what kind of husband you aim to be with your spouse. Follow through with actions that uphold what you represent to your spouse. What you want to exhibit to your children.
This is very different from ‘I am not going to end up one of those guys whose wife basically runs his life.’ No one should run their spouse’s life. Rephrase it into the positive; ‘I am going to be the guy who anticipates what his wife wants and help her get it.’
Romance – Your Romantic Life
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Are you a good dancer? Salsa? Ballroom? Can you cook? Can you tell a good story? Are you funny? Spontaneous? Your romantic life will change over time. When you are a teenager you ask a girl to the movies. On the dating scene you ask a woman for coffee. If all goes well you invite her to go out for dinner. Romance is totally underrated by men. Because it is not understood in relation to the three lives of a woman. When for her it is important, that is the thing to focus on.
Then there is the romance related to a goal. You see an attractive woman you want to seduce so you do what makes her imagine you as the hero of her romantic life. Making you look dangerously mysterious. If you are good at it then it can work for you without fail.
What words do you want to sum up your professional life?
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Writing it on paper to make it official is a slow, deliberate process that causes you to think if that is what you really want. And that is the point. Motivational speakers are useful as long as they guide you to an enhanced version of you.
Write as often as you ‘want’: daily, weekly, randomly.
Ask others what they want? And why.
Nature Insight – Is nature confident? Can you say that the wilderness is confident, or the planet? Observe – Nature has a purpose driven existence that is always connected to its evolutionary trajectory. There is no interference in the signal from its past through the now we live in, into the future. So confidence is not an issue for anything to do with the planet. The planet either does something or not because it is within the scope of its mission. For the planet there is no FOMO on its mission. There is no Ego on its mission.
Learning from Nature – We need confidence in our abilities to communicate what we want. To ask for help and to delegate. To give feedback and petition feedback.
Word Math – Confidence = Belief x Focus to the power of Perseverance
So you can bring focus and clarify beliefs and while engraining perseverance.
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