A few days ago I came home with some flowers for my wife. I got them in the supermarket across the street. The prices are generally good for the bouquets of Iris she likes. When I walk into our condo she lights up when she sees the triangular paper shape of the wrapped up flowers. My daughter chimes in ‘Oh, are those for me …?’ She knows the answer. She gets flowers on birthdays. My wife gets them because she is my wife. A cold overcast January day is a fabulous day for flowers. Even though they are not for my daughter she gets over her feigned disappointment and unwraps them and points out they are a little damaged. Broken stem. No big deal. They still will bring life, colour and fragrance into our home.
The thing is, this has happened before: damaged flowers. Now it could have been in transit as the flowers likely came from California or Niagara. However, when I have bought flowers the woman wrapping them has treated them poorly, brusquely, for no apparent reason. It hasn’t happened often. But it makes me wonder. Everyone has bad days; doesn’t feel well; is underpaid and needs to let it out.
Other times it is the Female Frixion. It gets the better of them.
The Female Frixion is a natural urge that makes sense to women. This urge creates a friction between the three roles of women: Professional, Maternal, Romantic. Men, for their part, have: Professional, Paternal, Adventurer.
Each of those role loves its own flow and rising above the rasping of the roles. Women feel the fulfillment that goes by responding with vigour to life. When the fulfillment wanes the Female Frixion intensifies.
Perhaps the Female Frixion exists because as a society we don’t understand how a woman is configured. Speaking as a man about the education a man receives about a woman – we have no idea about the emotional engineering of a woman.
Then again this tug of war between the roles may have nothing to do with the configuration of a woman. This urge that pushes a woman in such a way may stem from a society that is not aligned to the nature of a woman. Something to be pondered…
This Female Frixion is at the nexus of the three roles; again those being professional, romantic and maternal. This internal conflict does not mean there is something wrong. The fact of the Female Frixion never implies or says men are better. Men would do very well to pay attention to the women in their life as they adjust and jump, or not, in response to the demands of the roles. Men can learn about being in connection with their instinct and how to be fluent in their emotional agility.