LABEL = Love and be Loved
Seek something to love in the other person – Offer them something to love.
Seek their positive and the quirky aspects, the puzzling or the endearing habits.
Offer your time, offer your accompaniment in this stage of life, offer your perception about growing and acceptance of what needs to be forgiven.
Make the higher more important than the lower as an engine to generate self love.
Love the service that your ego provides to your higher development life. The ego level of you needs approval and attention and to be included and feel important. So you give it all those things. But not at the expense of your ability to grow.
You can do it.
You probably already are. Just get better at it.